We kiss and cuddle to show affection and naturally we want to do the same with the dogs we love. Yet kissing is not a natural part of doggie behavior. When dogs lick your face back, this isn’t always a sign of returning affection. Dogs licking can mean many things from showing affection and relieving stress, to showing submission. Let’s take a look at whether kissing your dog is sending them the right message, and what your dog’s smooches in return might really mean.
Do Dogs Understand Kisses?
Dogs and humans communicate in completely different ways. Unfortunately, we often make the mistake of interpreting dog behavior in human terms. Humans rely on verbal or sign language to express ideas and emotions. Dogs primarily depend on body posturing and facial expressions to communicate with each other.
Researchers have studied dogs for years to try and understand them better. It’s tempting to compare dogs to their wild ancestors, wolves. Much like dogs themselves, though, dog language has also evolved over the 30 000 years since they started living with humans. Now researchers estimate that, amongst today’s domestic dog breeds, Huskies have retained the most wolf-like language traits. German Shepherds have only retained about three quarters of wolf-like social signaling. Cavalier King Charles Spaniels have retained the least wolf-speak in the dog kingdom. These variations even make it hard for dogs to communicate with other breeds. So it’s no wonder that we sometimes struggle to understand our pets.
Lost in Translation
Since we don’t speak dog, some of the things we take for granted can easily get lost in translation— especially signs of affection, like hugging and kissing. Kissing is a human trait. Researchers have yet to find a comparable behavior in dogs that reflects the same range of emotions as human kisses.
Dogs do not innately understand what kisses mean. However, just like we learn what their different behaviors mean, dogs are also very good at learning how to interpret our behavior.
Do Dogs Like Kisses?
The act of kissing your dog means we place our faces right up against theirs. Sometimes we even go so far as to hug them, throwing our arms around their shoulders. We might enjoy this from a select number of humans. But think about the last time a relative stranger gave you a hug or a kiss, or someone tried to do this when you weren’t in the mood.
Dogs rarely approach each other straight on. Instead, two dogs greeting each other will approach from the side. Putting your face close to a dog is a very assertive behavior in dog language. If he hasn’t learnt what this is all about he might feel very threatened.
Aggressive dogs may loom over more submissive dogs, trying to make themselves appear larger. In this context, it is easy to see how a dog could confuse a child leaning in for a kiss with a threat. Because dogs learn what our behaviors mean, the good news is that most dogs can learn to associate our kisses with affection. Even enjoy them reciprocate in their own way.
But Watch Their Reactions
Some dogs, however, only tolerate kisses because we’ve trained them to accept this behavior as normal. Others always find human kisses uncomfortable. Some find kisses downright threatening. You can usually determine whether a dog likes kisses or not by watching their reactions. Use the following signs to see if your dog likes it when you kiss them.
Dog-talk signs that a pup finds kisses stressful include turning their head away, stiffening their body, licking their lips, or yawning – and even licking your face forcefully to try and make you retreat. So do dogs like kisses? They will show you!
Why Do Dogs Lick?
You may have seen dogs lick the muzzles of other dogs, or perhaps your dog licks your face on a regular basis. Is this like kissing your dog? This may feel like a kiss to us, but what is your dog actually trying to say? It can mean many different things.
Licking is one of the instinctive behaviors through which dogs communicate. Licking is often used to show affection and greeting between dogs. In fact when dogs lick themselves or others it releases endorphins – the feel good hormones – which relieves stress and comforts the dog. Licking is also used as a sign of submission, to explore scents, to get attention, or even as a warning to back off.
Mothers and Puppies
Do dogs like kisses from each other? The mother licks her pups not only to help them to eliminate, but also to groom and comfort them. While this is not a kiss in the same way that a human mother might kiss her baby, it is still a gesture that carries affection. As pups grow older they lick their mother’s mouth. This is instinctive behavior left over from their wolf ancestry when the mother would regurgitate food.
Licking can also be a submissive behavior between dogs. A dog may lick the muzzle of a more dominant dog to avoid retribution. Or your dog could simply be curious about something another dog has eaten. But why do dogs “kiss” people?
Why Do Dogs Lick Your Face?
Dogs lick people for all the reasons mentioned above, and more. You should learn how to interpret the rest of their body signals to know whether it’s an affectionate “kiss” or not. Dogs are observant. If you reacted positively to kisses in the past, they’re more likely to do it again. This becomes an attention-seeking behavior, and could be your dog’s way of saying, “Hello, human friend, pay attention to me.”
Dogs explore the world with sight, sound, smell, and taste. You dog could “kiss” your face simply to get more information about the delicious snack you’ve just eaten, or to find out where you’ve been. They might even lick you to draw your attention to something that’s worrying them. It might be as simple as that their water bowl is empty. They could even be trying to tell you that there’s something up elsewhere in the house.
An injured or anxious dog might lick a person in the same way a submissive dog licks a more dominant dog. They could be licking because they feel threatened when you, your child, or even a stranger bends over and kisses them. You might think that they’re kissing you back. In the meantime, their intended meaning could be the complete opposite – and then your further approach could create a dangerous situation. So even if you believe the answer to do dogs understand kisses is a resounding yes for your own pup – there are still some dangers to watch out for.
Do Dogs Know What Kisses Are?
Most dogs tolerate kisses from their owners fairly well. Some may even come to associate kisses with love and attention, and quite a few even enjoy kisses from their people. They’ll usually show their pleasure by wagging their tails, looking alert and happy, and licking you back. Unfortunately hugging and kissing behaviors are some of the most common triggers for dog bites to the face, especially with children. Every year about 400 000 children in the US are bitten by dogs. Most of the bites happen at home, to children younger than 7 years old, and with dogs that they’re familiar with.
Children are impulsive and often appear as a threat to dogs by approaching them when they’re eating. Or they might surprise them with a hug and a kiss while they’re sleeping. Children are also usually not able to interpret the warning signals when a dog doesn’t want to be kissed. In some cases, dogs who are punished for growling or baring their teeth may even learn to skip more assertive warning signs. They may move straight to a nip, creating an even more dangerous situation.
Play it Safe
So it’s always best to play it safe and avoid kissing unfamiliar dogs. Keep this is mind especially if you adopt an older dog. You never know whether they might have been abused and have serious trust issues. It’s definitely a good idea to instruct children to engage in respectful behaviors. They should wait for your dog to come to them for gentle pets. This shows that the dog is comfortable and confident with the interaction. By now you know that dogs don’t kiss each other in the same way we kiss our loved ones. So, how do dogs show affection?
When Do Dogs Like Being Kissed?
When dogs have been well socialised from a young age they can come to understand kisses and cuddles as your way for showing affection. So do dogs know what kisses are? Many do and also learn to enjoy them. They may lick you to show affection back, despite it not being natural dog behavior. Your dog has learned that you respond positively to a big, slobbery dog kiss— for better or for worse.
On their part physical proximity is a sign of trust and affection. When your dog is near or snuggled up to you, they’re showing that they love you. Deep sighs reveal that your dog is relaxed in your presence. Many dogs learn to enjoy pets and scratches. Just like people, dogs are unique. Some dogs express love and affection differently from others. It is up to you to observe them, and do your own research into dog behavior, to interpret their messages.
Does My Dog Love Me?
Our emotions have evolved for a reason. Love is no different. Human love is a driving force that builds bonds between friends and family and most important, helps us to support and protect one another. Dogs are social, family animals too. They share much of our genetic make up. And they also are driven to support and protect one another.
So there is no reason to believe that the emotion we call love, which powers that support and protection, feels any different to them than it does to us. And it’s likely that your dog does love you, very much. He or she may have different ways of expressing that love. But the underlying feelings are likely very similar.
Whether your dog’s favorite way to spend time is to give you kisses or howl along to your top music tracks together, they definitely feel strongly about you.
Do dogs like kisses? – Summary
Dogs do plenty of things like licking the air, which can look like cute air kisses. But do dogs like actual kisses? There is still a great deal we don’t know about dog behavior. And the answer to do dogs like being kissed and do dogs understand kisses is often a no. Furthermore, dogs lick for many reasons and if your dog licks your face it is not necessarily a kiss.
Luckily for humans, dogs are pretty good at interpreting most of our body language. They know when we’re happy, sad, and angry. They adapt their behavior to live harmoniously with us. In turn, we teach them commands so that they can further abide by our rules.
Whether or not it’s okay to kiss your dog depends largely on your dog – watch how they react when you when you kiss them. If there are any signs of stress, it is a good idea to respect their natural instincts and give them a little space.
If your dog seems totally unfazed, kissing is probably okay, but bear in mind that just because your dog lets you kiss them doesn’t mean they’ll appreciate a kiss from someone else. Most importantly, teach your own and any other children who may come into contact with your dog how to interact with dogs safely and respectfully. For more information about dog behavior, talk to your veterinarian or consult with a behavioral specialist.
Laurie says
I have two chihuahuas that LOVE getting kisses especially my male chihuahua, Peanut. He is 10 lbs. When I am laying down on the couch or bed, he will crawl up in my chest, put his cheeks right on or very near my lips to kiss him. I will ask him where he wants kisses, he will move his head around to different areas so I can kiss him. He loves kisses so much that he will get so worked up, he would hyperventilate but calm down. My girl chihuahua will the same thing with me but she demands a belly rubbing to start. All of the dogs that I have grown up with or own myself except for one, LOVES KISSES! I kiss Peanut, he will lick me on my face etc. Because of this affection makes me love dogs more and more!
CTheRaven says
I would honestly love to know WHY my dog has ALWAYS (since we adopted him from a shelter at 9 weeks old, and he had been at the shelter since he was 4 weeks) pressed his face (cheek/side of his face, or right between his eyes) against our lips and doesn’t let up until he wants to, if he doesn’t understand what kisses are. He seems to know, and enjoy kisses. But if this is some how learned behavior, and we aren’t forcing kisses on him, what is he trying to communicate? He’s 3 years now, 20lbs, and he will jump right onto our chests to demand these kisses, closing his eyes when we comply. He’s taught our older dog to do it.
Douglas says
I have a 10 pound yorkie 12 years now. He knows what my kisses are and even attempts to kiss me back. I’ve had him since he was 3 months. Don’t tell me he doesn’t know-he loves my kisses.
Cherelle Hardman says
Chihuahuas do love other chihuahuas. Recently my older dog died and left
My 8yo all alone without her doggie companion. she pined stopped eating and stayed in her bed waiting for his return. Fortunately I have another pup now and it has transformed My Lola. She now loves to play with the puppy and has a new zest for life.
I named the new pup Sunny as she has brought so much joy and sunshine into both of our lives.
Maureen says
To all the folks that would like my opinion.
I have had Sheppards {8 over the years} all my dogs loved to be kissed and hugged. They lived to be 12 and 15 more years old so I guess my kisses and hugs were very much liked. They were loved by my children and the dogs loved them back.
I am approaching 80 now it would not be fair to have a puppy {as much I would love to have one}and my children are all grown up and have their own puppies and dogs as well as cats.
I believe the puppy would outlive me and that would be unfair to the dog.
animal Lover Maureen xoxo
Cindy Ginsberg says
Amen Sister! We’ve only had Old Man for a year, now. Best we can figure he’s probably 11ish. Our only (family) issue…. it’s not cool to kiss a 110 lb yeller Lab while wearing red lipstick!
Fran Balzofiore says
Aww, that’s so precious. Who cares if it’s cool or not enjoy the affection! Gotta love our puppies!
Dennis says
I don’t care what science says! My dog Howie loves when I kiss him and he loves to kiss me back! His reaction is very positive and cuddles next to me and returns his kisses to show that he really loves me. He always follows me everywhere I go and is always happy to see me. I love him and he loves me!
Jackie says
I don’t think my dog really likes to be kissed. But she is very affectionate and obedient, so she tolerates the kisses I sometimes can’t seem to help myself planting on her head, face and tummy. The way I know she would rather not be kissed is she turns her head away and even drops down on the floor as if she is trying to avoid the kiss. But she stays right under me and actively encourages me to keep petting her and talking to her. She also loves to lick me in the mouth, if she can get to it. I interpret the mouth licking as her saying “I love you but I don’t really want your kisses so I will lick you instead.” Lol. Sammi is a very smart dog. She learns my body language and verbal cues like lightening and responds very well. She knows my kisses are affection and approval. But as she is now older (going on 7) I am stopping the smooches. I don’t want to annoy her. She much prefers my hands. She wants infinite pats on the head, neck rubs, back rubs and play…she loves wrestling, running around with me and especially playing keep away with her toy.
Linda says
Some dogs love kisses, especially if they are used to it since puppies. I’ve had 12 dogs and just one of them didn’t enjoyed kisses as much, but she didn’t like touch at all, even so she understood what it was and reacted in a caring way when we sent kisses from distance.
Of course, kissing strange dogs is not recommended, the same way kissing a strange person is weird, but with few time they understand what kisses are very well. They read humans very well and know how intentioned you are. Dogs are smarter than some people think.
debbie says
I created a monster in my dog. I was told she was 8 weeks and ready to go when I brought her home – Howver, I an thinking not. She was very clingy to me and would insist on snuggling very close to my face. Like the foolish human, I would shower her with kisses.
I eventually started to withdrawal the kisses as she got older until I stopped. Soon after she started behavior in which she would push her face onto my mouth. I would push away and she would just keep doing it. I had a hard time understanding why she waa putting her face on my mouth and believed it to be a sign she was trying to dominate me.
Problem was, it was the only such sign of dominant behavior. She was naturally submissive and this could be seen in her posturing when approaching people. She loves strangers almost to the fanatical. It’s like they all are a young girl’s pop star idol.
It soon dawned on me that she actually might be seeking kisses. So, one day I initiated the kiss kiss kiss that I used to do to her when she was so small. Immediately she just relaxed into it and was content. Problem is, she’s doing it even more now. Well, not so much a problem because I don’t mind it and she really loves her kisses – even on the top of the head. It’s just that sometimes, like 3 am it’s not convenient when she decides she wants kisses and I wake to tickling whiskers bevause she wants kisses
I guess she is one of those few that not only love kisses, but seeks to get them.
Ken says
I love that. I have a little Aussie Bull dog x Schnauzer a very good looking little man indeed (Zulu) I got Zulu at the age of six weeks and we do everything together. I hate leaving him when I Hugo to work but when I return he is as excited as I was when it was Christmas. Every day the same. I simply cannot stop kissing him and whispering in his ear that I love him. He does not back off at all and I honestly feel he loves it. Hi tail is like an out of control windscreen wiper. I sometimes think people tell us the biggest load of rubbish about what your pet likes and dislikes. I read we can’t touch their tummies because they hate it. While that may be true in some dogs, I think it’s totally the opposite with Zulu. I love this little man like he is my son. Will never stop showing him the affection he absolutely deserves for being my very best friend in the world. I say never stop loving them and showering them with your love and kisses.